Get your Clit lit while you sit!

Guess what?  You can get your clit lit while you sit like a lady, giving yourself an “O” and letting no one know, except for your subtle shudders and oh-so comely glow ; )

And who doesn’t want to spice up their day with a little hands-free foreplay?

In my sexuality classes, I teach all kinds of k”egg”els and cuntractions, but when we get to the clitoris, it can be quite confounding.  Just how do you learn to push and pull this precious pearl when she seems so hidden away in her hidey-hole hood?

Well after much practice pulsing my privates, I discovered a little trick that will make you come quick!  Wanna know it?

Then give this video a click and learn how to light your lady lump’s wick ; )



Trust me, once you know how to contract your clitoris, you’ll want to do it constantly, and this can come in handy when you want to cum hands free!  This kind of pleasurable pulsing can quicken cunnilingus, zig zag pleasure paths all over your body, and even bring on the big “O” in your orifice when you flex during sex.

So what’s keeping you?

Start clicking your clit and let’s get her lit!

Let’s love up your ladies!

Did you know that our breasts are where we generously “give” to the world as women? They are a sacred source of nurturing, beauty, and love, the center of our true radiance and light as ladies.

No wonder they call them headlights!

But sadly, we rarely focus on the pleasure we can receive from them ourselves. We leave it to our partners to turn us on and often only massage them while fearfully hoping not to find a lump.

The truth is, the real start of your sexual fire begins in the heart and breasts, then warmly flows down to awaken your nether regions. This is why women want to be romanced, cherished, and “seen” before they’re ready for deeper intimacy in a relationship.

So why not light yourself up with some loving massage?

Sensual breast massage is a beautiful way to cultivate self love while simultaneously firming your favorite feminine adornments. Plus it keeps your ladies free and clear of toxins and heartache and even helps to balance your hormones.

Below you’ll find my favorite beginner breast massage techniques, coming from the Taoist alchemy traditions:



Practiced regularly, these strokes will awaken your breasts to vibrant health and vitality, even stoking your sexual fire for a long slow burn. When done with devotion, you’ll discover that your body eventually opens to breast orgasms and even full body orgasms!

Now you know why it’s my favorite bath time meditation ; )

So find a secluded spot, grab some sweet almond or jojoba oil, and let’s show your ladies some love <3

Master this Bated Breath!

Welcome to your very first Friday Foreplay tip!  Saturdays are sexy and often designed for two (or three!) warm bodies, but Fridays are for Freya, and therefore all about warming up the feminine!  In Tantra and Taoism, men are fire and women are water, sexually speaking that is.  That means men are quick to heat up AND cool down in their nether regions.  Women on the other hand are like water coming to a boil – it might take longer but it can sustain that heat (read:  orgasmic sensation and ecstasy) for a very long time.

But if we’re being honest, most women don’t get much time to warm-up before the big show.  Maybe there’s some kissing and fondling, but often not much more than that before Mr. Manhood makes his entrance.  That’s where Friday Foreplay comes in!  These are ways you can heat yourself up and keep yourself at a simmer, so you’re all warmed up and ready to cook.

So this first technique is my favorite and quite effective.  I like to call it “The Breath of Desire.”  Think of it as a Kegel high on oxygen.  So here’s the super simple instructions:


Inhale through the nose as if pulling the breath into the vagina.  This is your mouth in the south, so let her contract and really pull the air into the vagina and up the spine to the back of the heart.  Now let your lady parts relax and exhale out of your breasts.  For this exhale, imagine that your breasts are filling up with the warm sexual energy, expanding them into fullness, and then sighing out of the nipples (you can even let yourself audibly sigh if you’d like).  Now let the energy flow down in front of the body and inhale it back into your va-jay-jay, creating a continuous circle loop of yoni/heart energy (p.s. yoni is Tantra speak for vagina).


Essentially that’s it – super simple and super effective!  Just continue breathing in this loop and even let yourself start to undulate with the movement.  In no time you will find your body tingling with electricity and pulsating with potential.  In Tantra, the breasts are where women’s energy begins, so once your breasts are warmed up, their heat will melt downstairs and make your yoni hungry for dinner.  Plus contracting on the inhale brings circulation to your pretty kitty, so there’s extra sexual energy to feed your pretty pair.  I love this practice because it’s easy, can be undetectable (so possible to practice anywhere, even in plain sight), and fills me with a desire that is not desperate, but rather fuels and satisfies itself.  You don’t get much better than that, so start breathing and fill yourself to overflowing with desire <3


P.s. Running this sexual energy circuit also makes you SUPER magnetic as a woman, so get ready for the coming attractions ; )

“The Snake in the Grass” technique

Welcome to The Scarlet Harlot, your divine destination for all of your sacred sexuality needs!  For our introductory lesson in awakening your orgasmic and sensual potential, I will be teaching a little technique I like to call “The Snake in the Grass.”  As we have recently entered the sign of Libra, this is a wonderful start, as it is a civilized and somewhat chaste way for the male and female private parts to meet and effectively “shake hands” before they get to know each other better later on ; )

Essentially this is a lesson in mutual masturbation, but instead of using your hands, you’ll be using your bodies.  The reason this technique is so great is because it keeps the man excited while catching the woman up to speed.  It’s also wonderful because currently in our culture’s adult education, most of the attention is paid to stimulating a woman’s clitoris (and delightfully so!), but in fact, women have more erectile tissue and pleasure nerves than either party is probably aware.  Using this technique, women can start to massage and explore all of the external areas of their sacred spaces and awaken them to their full potential.  With enough of this practice, a woman can be just as turned on by having her labia, perineum, or even anus stimulated as she does her clitoris.

So here’s the practice, straight and simple.  First, use the lubrication and arousal techniques of your choice to get your man nice and tumescent.  Once he’s in this ready-to-go state, use the tip of his phallic wonder as you would your fingers or a toy to massage all the areas AROUND your vagina (btw, make sure you’re nice and lubed yourself!).  Start with your outer lips, massaging them until you can feel them getting beautifully engorged and sensitive.  This might not happen the first time around, but with time you will be amazed at just how orgasmic they can become all on their own!  Under each outer lip lives a wonder that is the vestibular bulb, and it is chock full of pleasure nerves and capable of incredible growth.

Once the outer are nice and plump, move to the inner lips.  Now these little babies can be quite sensitive and delicate, which is why they are often (but not always) tucked underneath the outer labia.  For these ladies, make sure everything is still wonderfully wet and switch to a softer style of movement.  Think butterfly kisses!  You can even hold and ever so slowly glide the length of the penis between these girls.  A wonderful practice would be to let them wrap themselves around their suitor with a warm embrace (imagine a hot dog sitting snug in its bun) and just sit with this for a minute, letting the two melt into each other.  This relaxation into sensuality is THE key to a woman’s awakening.

Now you can return to the tip (which will keep him excited) to massage the perineum, the sweet soft spot located halfway between the vaginal opening and the anus.  Now, this is the seat (or rather Throne) of your sleeping serpent, so treat her with respect.  Massage with slight circles and even some slight pushing (the shallowest depth of penetration) to awaken Shakti Herself.  You might even notice a renewed juiciness within as this is the source of a woman’s love lube : )

Finally, if you’re feeling particularly adventurous, slip around the corner and check out your back door.  Naughty as it may seem, the tissue around your anus is pleasurable beyond measure and super sensitive.  This is also where a lot of tension can be held (think of the term “tight ass”), so massaging it into a relaxed state can eventually open the flood gates of pleasure, as most of the sex nerves pass through the sacrum and anus.  Now remember, this is a first date, so this is not about penetration, just exploration.  That being said, just circling this port is enough to blow most men’s minds with desire, so be prepared for some excitement on his part!

The most important part of this play session is making it safe and relaxed, so agree ahead of time that there will be no penetration, only relaxation and exploration.  Now if after all of this you want to dive deeper, do a little something to signify to both of you that this lesson is over, and start a new session of your choosing.  And remember, if you ventured to the back, clean up before you go back to the front.  Now let Adam and Eve enter the garden and play!